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Why I Deleted My Social Media Apps

Earlier this week I deleted Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram apps from my phone. Not going to lie, I’m actually at peace without them. Social media has been a thorn in my side for a while and recently it’s been bothering me being connected all the time. I still login throughout the day, but in the evening, I put my phone away. Out of sight, out of mind.

Why now?

There are a few reasons, mostly personal. The short version, I need a healthier distraction. I think social media is okay in moderation but should never be used as our only source for connection. I’m grateful for the people I’m connected to. Our friendships were birthed through social media and I know we’ll remain long-term friends.

Connection isn’t the problem though, it’s compulsion.

One thing I’m learning is to be better with my time and use my time in ways that matter. Resisting the urge to login to Facebook, scroll through Twitter and Instagram and actually pay attention to the things that are going on inside me is becoming more important.  Healthy habits is a goal of mine this year. This started with making minor adjustments in my daily life and they’ve slowly become habits. Particularly for me it’s in a few key areas, but social media was definitely at the top.

One of the healthiest things we can do is pay attention to how our minds respond to things we see on social media.

To be completely honest, I want to live a more quiet life. I said this in my last post and it’s still true two months later. Not every area of our life needs an audience. There are many things going on in my life right now that have no business or place on social media. We have a right to privacy, and sometimes social media violates this.

2018 is becoming a year of process for me. Things being stripped from me one at a time. It’s also a year of reflection and deep repentance. There have been key moments this year already that have reshaped my thinking. I’m laughing and in awe right now at how God uses the people He does to do this. The amount of closed door conversations I’ve had with people this year helping them deal with their personal pain is in turn helping me deal with mine.

It’s a process.

The people in our life deserve our full time and attention. I learned this over a year ago, but definitely, more so this year. Everyone I sit down to eat with or talk to, I never check my phone and they don’t either. We value the connection and presence of each other, not our screens. What would the relationships in your life look like if you learned to do the same? They would probably be healthier, stronger, and would thrive.

I often wonder about people who are always connected at all hours of the day. What in their life do they need a distraction from? Social media is a distraction and can be an unhealthy one. This isn’t about other people though, it’s about me.

Now that social media is off my phone, I feel better without it. The temptation to check my e-mail or social media in the middle of the night or early in the morning is gone. When we focus on things that really matter, things that used to matter don’t.

My challenge for you this year is to put your phone down. Pay attention to what’s going on inside you and around you. Those things deserve our time and attention, not social media and their audiences.

In Jesus and with love,


Social Media & Sabbath Rest

Recently, I made the decision to stop using my cell phone past 7pm. This also includes checking or posting to social media. I’ve been thinking about the reality of social media and how negatively being always connected affects us. At least how it’s affected me. After being depressed about a month ago, I knew it was time to change. Something had to change in my daily routine and this was definitely one thing that needed to be addressed. For now, it’s a break but I’m hoping it will turn into a habit.

Three years ago, I wrote about this. Most of it still resonates with me today but a lot in my life has changed. When I think about social media and what it’s used for nowadays, it was time for a break.

The reality of social media is sometimes it leads to false sense of reality. There’s a difference between sharing memorable moments and keeping memorable moments sacred. We want connection, but consider the cost. Screens shouldn’t replace our relationships. 

Most of my interactions nowadays are face to face and this is preferred. It’s more intimate. When I text, I try to keep it short. If I know it’s going to be super long, I call the person later or carve out moments in my day to confront them. So much can be misconstrued through texting.

Hard boundaries need to be in place with how we utilize technology.

About two weeks ago, the word “Sabbath” was repeated a lot in my reading.  After discernment, I knew I needed one day out of the week where I designated solely to rest. Saturday is my Sabbath. Self-care is so important, I can’t stress this enough. I’m thankful God really worked in my heart about the importance of rest.

Sabbath is a day of stopping. It’s one full day where we cease our activities.  God rested after His work and we are to do so too.

Between taking a break from social media in the evenings and having Saturday as a Sabbath, I feel better. Being still has been one of the best decisions I’ve made in a long while. Life needs space and God prepares us in our stillness.

Examine how often you’re connected and moving. Learn to be still and intentional with Sabbath rest too.

In Jesus and with love,


Social Media & Sacred Moments


Social media is great when used for its purpose. We’re able to connect with people from all over the world, share our thoughts, ideas, and build community with strangers who eventually become like family. My life has been forever changed by the people I’ve been able to connect to through the internet. It’s crazy to imagine how different my life would be without it.  I can’t think of a single moment in the past few years when the internet didn’t play an integral part in the relationships I’ve built over the past few years.

I tend to be a personal and private person. There are some things in my life I don’t share online. Most of you who are connected to me notice I post minimal pictures and very seldom post about my daily life and interactions. The moments I share with those close to me are between me and that person and they’re sacred. I value those moments so much I try not to pick up my phone and check Twitter or Facebook in their presence.

Often others tell us to “Enjoy every moment” and “Live in the moment”, but to truly live in the moment, we need to be fully present and engaged. Social media takes away from the sacredness of our most precious and private moments. 

Daily, my timeline and news feed are bombarded by minute and hour playback of everyone’s life. Every moment has to be accounted for, every moment has to be tracked and remembered. I remember before social media  if I wanted to remember something, anything, I wrote it down — on paper, not online. When I needed a friend, I’d pick up the phone and call or we would sit on my front porch and talk for hours, until the sun set and rose again.  These moments are sacred because no one knows the gravity of those moments but me and the person I shared them with.

As I stood facing a friend last night in conversation, I remember every word exchanged in those brief moments and the intimacy. Not sexual intimacy, but spiritual. This spiritual intimacy can not be defined in 140 characters or through a Facebook status because there are no words to describe moments like this and this is why they’re sacred.

Every moment in our life doesn’t need to be shared. Social media has kept us from a life of simplicity and enjoying  moments that really matter in our everyday life. Granted social media isn’t horrible, it’s been through social media I’ve made connections with people I wouldn’t have, had I never joined Twitter or Facebook but social media is only one part of my story, not my entire journey. 

I wonder how different our lives would be without social media. I think we’d learn to be intentional like Jesus. He didn’t need social media to connect with people, He connected with them through His actions and love.

When I think about Jesus and His sacred moments, I think about the times He went away to pray and be with His father; those quiet moments of intimacy most of us forget exist. 

When I won 2nd place in the Spelling Bee, social media wasn’t there.

When I had my first kiss, social media wasn’t there.

When I drove my first car, social media wasn’t there.

When and if I make love for the first time, social media won’t be there.

When and if I get married, social media won’t be there.

When and if I have my first child, social media won’t be there.

Every single moment shared between me and friends old and new, social media wasn’t there but they’re forever in my memory.

Every moment old, present, and future were, are, and will be sacred.

Social media is a great tool, but shouldn’t be a replacement for reality. There are several moments in the past few months I’ve had with coworkers and friends I’ve kept between us. These were intentional moments and were enjoyed fully because we were completely engaged and enjoyed each other’s presence without a cell phone and social media. I value moments like this as sacred because they’re ones when time doesn’t exist, and every moment is treated like its our last.

Value every moment as sacred because they truly are.

Are you sharing more moments of your life online than actually living them?


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