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Laying Your Life Down for Your Friends

About a month ago, our office had to evacuate because the motor in the staff elevator burned and almost caught on fire. Thankfully, no one was hurt and everyone evacuated safely until the smoke cleared. When the fire alarm went off, the only thing I thought about was to grab my friend and get out of the building. I left all my stuff (cell phone, purse, etc) behind.

This got me thinking about the value in friendship and how important the people are to me in my life. So important, I was willing to risk my own life to save theirs.

I’m not saying all this for a pat on the back. I don’t need that kind of validation. I’m not even saying this to brag. In that moment, it really put in perspective for me how important people are to me more than possessions.

When we are willing to give up all we have for others, there is no greater love than this. 

We can spend a great deal of time chasing things that don’t really matter in the long-run or slowing down enough to focus on things that do. What this really means is putting God and others first before ourselves. Now, don’t get this twisted and think self-care at times isn’t important. It so is. Taking care of ourselves is important, but always looking out for number one will eventually leave us lonely.

Real love means doing hard things but as I’m growing in the knowledge and understanding of God’s love for me, loving other people gets easier.

Laying our life down for each other is the most selfless thing we can ever do.

Will you lay your life down too?

Why We Need Godly Relationships

Every relationship in our life should be taken seriously. I’ve been slipping in areas where I shouldn’t and it’s due in part because I’m not surrounded by Godly influences. This is my fault and I take full responsibility for it.

Most of us don’t want to be challenged by others but our relationships should challenge every area of our life. While we don’t want or like other people telling us the honest truth about ourselves, we need people who will not only tell us but help us to become better spiritually.

Godly relationships will make us uncomfortable. They will force us to confront areas in our life we’re not ready to confront. 

You know that hidden sin in your life you’re not ready to deal with? Godly relationships will expose them. There have been times in my life when God told me to confront people in my life about their sinful habits. There have  been people who have confronted me about mine. It was extremely difficult at first to accept their truth, but looking back, it was truth spoken in love. We should have relationships who keep us accountable. No area in our life is hidden from God, the same should apply to our relationships with others. If the people in our life genuinely care about our life, they will ask us the hard stuff.

Godly relationships keep us accountable.

The relationships in our life should push us closer to God, not away from Him.  When our relationships are centered on Him alone, everything else in our life is better managed. We need people in our life who will read the Word with us, pray with and for us, and challenge us to be the person God created us to be.  We need people who will help, motivate, and challenge us to live out our calling.

Godly relationships follow the Lord with you.

I have a strong desire to connect with people, but for the past few months I’ve been really lax in my faith and relationships with others. The desire shifted from wanting to help others to instead focus on myself. While doing this, I’ve realized a lot of the things I need most in my life can’t happen with only me. I need other people.

 Godly relationships encourage us in our strengths and carry us through our weaknesses.

Relationships are extremely valuable but can also be very messy. This is something I’ve touched on a lot over the last few months because it’s still an area of deep struggle for me. I told someone the other night wanting a Godly relationship is truly my heart’s desire.

Hopefully, it’s yours too.

Do you have Godly relationships in your life? If you don’t, what are you doing to change it?


Don’t End Up Friendless

“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” (Proverbs 18:24)

The more God leads me to verses about friendship, I’m reminded how true friendship is rare.

I have several acquaintances, but I can only name 2-3 true friends in my own life. I’m at a point in my life where I don’t want any more acquaintances, I want true and lasting friendship. We should all want this and it’s our responsibility to take the issue of friendships, relationships, and community seriously.

No one wants to die alone but I believe some of us will because we don’t know how to cultivate and sustain healthy relationships. 

When the whole world decides to walk out, we should have at least one person who remains. This the person we know we can count on through anything. They’re the first person we think to call on in an emergency or crisis. But even if there is no emergency or crisis, they’re the first person we think of when we need someone.

Who is this person in your life?

Who has always been there for you when others weren’t?

Who in your life are you currently taking for granted? 

These are hard questions, but they need to be asked. It is better we have one or a few friends we can count on than many. We could be surrounded by plenty of people and still feel alone. I know I’ve gotten to this point a few times in my life but I’ve gotten better. I don’t talk about everything with anyone, but I’m getting better with opening up. Friendships take work and I’m more interested in the quality of my friendships than how many people I have around me.

Not everyone can be trusted and their actions will speak louder than their words ever do. But there are people out there who will be there for you, who will comfort you, protect you, correct you, and love you. Surround yourself with those kind of people.

Make acquaintances, but keep true friends close. Someone with a lot of “so-called” friends may end up friendless. Don’t let this be you. 

How many true friendships do you have in your life?

Will You Lay Your Life Down For Your Friends?

I’ve been asking this question to myself a lot lately. With the recent changes in my life and relationships with others, I’m reminded daily how important being surrounded by the right people matters. Having the people I do in my life is important for my growth, not only spiritually, but personally. I take my relationships with others seriously, but I won’t lie and say I don’t fall short in some areas.

God reminded me this morning that in order for my relationships to thrive, I have to lay down my pride. 

I’m very vocal about my wants, needs, and desires. I make those things known and I make them clear. However, in doing this, my words have often wounded instead of lift up and encourage. The truth is, it’s not always about me and I need to be careful with the hearts God has entrusted me.   Though I’ve been hurt a lot in my past, the hurt spills into places it shouldn’t. The people in my life right now are answered prayers and it would be stupid to take them for granted.

Last night, I had a difficult conversation with someone and though those things needed to be said, it was mostly selfish on my part. There are things people in our life can’t give us. Not because they can’t, but because those things take time. Instead of being patient with the process, I want to rush ahead. I need to lay my needs, wants, and desires down and focus on the fact God has placed someone in my life who sees and knows everything about me and accepts me, all of me. They are patient with me and aren’t going to throw in the towel.

Our relationships can’t grow when we give up on each other.

I know I’ve given up on people. Most people in my life will tell me it was long over due and maybe it was. While most of it was selfish and a reaction out of feelings, it was time. I look at how people who have only known me for a month treat me compared to how someone who has known me longer than a year treated me. There were a lot of inconsistencies and it was time to walk. I don’t regret it and I want to do right in my future relationships.

God wants us to love and value others above ourselves. 

It will be uncomfortable at times and you’ll try to convince yourself why your actions are right. But, God wants us to lay our lives down for each other. It will mean patience and humility, and above all, love. In every area of our life, Jesus must be greater. Our friendships with others is no different.

Anything God asks of us should point back to love. Everything, all the time. It’s time we get out of our own way and let Jesus have HIS way in our lives and hearts.

Are you willing?


You Deserve To Be Treated Well

I came to a pretty sad reality about myself recently. I’m still adjusting to this reality, but it’s restructured my life in very specific ways. Mostly with how I see myself as a person, a woman, and importantly, how I’ve allowed myself to be treated for most of my adult life.

Imagine going your entire life thinking when other people hurt you, this behavior is normal. You tolerate it again and again with the hope this time will be different. You put up with actions and behaviors most confident and secure people wouldn’t. You ignore the warnings, red flags, and inconsistencies. We become naive to truth. You tell yourself it’s what any person who loves and follows Jesus would do because He loves the broken and we should too.  But just because someone is broken it doesn’t give them the right to repeatedly hurt you or any other person in their life.

The bottom line is this: You deserve to be treated well. Any person or persons who rejects you, any part of you, and what you have to offer, doesn’t deserve you and you don’t need them in your life.

I’ve said this before many times, but I’m experiencing them in a different way. I’m learning when people genuinely care about and love you, they won’t find excuses for why they continually hurt you. There is no excuse. Deep down I know all the times I’ve been hurt, the person on the other end didn’t mean to. I know when I hurt other people, I don’t mean to. But I don’t make excuses for it and don’t purposefully find reasons to ignore and avoid them in any manner. I confront the problem, I confront them, and leave the rest to God.

Any relationship/friendship lost when truth is spoken is not a real relationship/friendship.

In the past three weeks, I’ve met new people, made new experiences, and cultivated healthy relationships with them. I can tell them my convictions, areas where I refuse to compromise, allowed them in places of vulnerability without fear of judgement or misunderstanding. I’m able to tell them point blank I’m a woman of God, I take my relationship with Him seriously, and I will not compromise any area for any reason for any one. I’ve laid everything out and basically said, “Take it or leave it. Because this isn’t changing, for anyone.” Their response? Total acceptance, respect, and love.

We deserve this kind of acceptance. Anything less than this doesn’t deserve our time or attention.

I’m not saying this is easy or that I’m perfect. I’m not a perfect follower of Jesus. When I struggle, I recognize the root of my struggles and then I move forward in dealing with it. We need people who can look at our weaknesses and struggles, see past them and walk with us despite their own weaknesses and struggles because we all have them.

We deserve people in our life who we can be authentic with and vise versa. I don’t wear masks in life. What you see is what you get. Being fake has no business or place in a life meant to be lived by faith. Anything less than this doesn’t deserve our time and attention. 

I enjoy being around other people but I know often it can get messy. It’s time for us to stop allowing ourselves to be doormats for others, staying in one sided relationships out of love. Love is unconditional, it may not always be reciprocated, but it was never meant to be abused. Real love never fails, and when it does it’s not real love. We deserve to have people in our life who love us in the way of Jesus. It was His way that set the standard. We will always fall short of this standard but it’s our responsibility to do our very best to right our wrongs, repent of any wrongdoing, and ask for forgiveness.

None of this is easy. We all have baggage and pasts that are difficult to move on from. But when God places people in our life to help us in those areas, it’s our responsibility to nurture those relationships. They’re rare and few, and should never be taken for granted.

It is my hope and prayer for you and for myself, we will begin to see ourselves in the image of Christ. That we will love ourselves enough to walk away from any person or persons who doesn’t see our value or worth.

You deserve to be treated well.  Any one who doesn’t recognize this, doesn’t deserve your time or attention.



3 Characteristics of Successful Friendships

The more I think about my life at almost 33, I’m reminded daily how important friendships are.  I’m also reminded how difficult they are.  I don’t know what it is about adult friendships, but it seems the older I get, it becomes harder to maintain them. My inner circle has gotten smaller over the past few years, but there are some consistent characteristics about these people and why we’re able to make our friendships work.

They’re reliable. When I text or call, they text and call back. They always respond.

They always follow through with commitments. If they say they’ll be there, they’re there. No questions asked. No excuses.

They value our time together. They’re never late or ever in a hurry. Oh, and as a bonus, they almost never use or check their phone while we’re together.

I’m in a place in life where I want to be around people who genuinely like being around me. Honestly, I’m not always the best person to be around. I’ve struggled more lately than I have in a while. Sometimes we say and do things we don’t necessarily mean and stuff happens that could have been prevented had we been more self-controlled. I know this now but I also know despite my failings, God has still proven Himself faithful.

God doesn’t stop working because I’m a bad friend.

This is an area I’m trying to constantly improve as I move forward with my life. I’ve had some amazing things happen in a few short months and I’ve had some difficult things happen too. But when it’s all said and done and the chips have fallen, I want to know the right people are in my life. People who will challenge me, strengthen me, encourage me, and be there no matter what. On the same hand, I want to be this kind of friend too.  I believe what we are willing to sow into our friendships/relationships and in life, we reap those things. If we sow good things, we’ll reap good things.

Successful friendships don’t happen over night. They’re cultivated over time with a lot of patience, and the will power to keep going, to make things work, even when the directions of our life change.

Ask God for the grace and humility to be a better friend and for Him to bring those kind of friends into your life.

Do you have successful friendships? If not, what in your life needs to change?



We Are Better Together


Adam and Eve.

David and Jonathan.

Elijah and Elisha.

Ruth and Naomi.

What do all these stories have in common? Each of them could not accomplish God’s work without each other.

Jesus sent His disciples two by two and from the beginning God knew we couldn’t function without people walking along side with us, helping us, encouraging us, and doing the work He has called each of us to do. Apart from Christ we can do nothing (John 15:5) but He will also bring people in our life who will help us too.

We should have people who will pour into us and spend time with us.

We should have people who will battle with us.

We should have people who will walk along side with us and have confidence in us when we want to give up.

From the beginning of creation, God knew we needed other people. 

I’m thankful for the people in my life who encourage me forward, who are there for me when I need to talk/vent, but I need more. I need someone in my life who will partner with me in doing the work God has sent me here to do and they’re willing to ride it out. Having these kind of people in our life is so important to furthering God’s kingdom here on earth.

Who is this person in your life?  

This is what I’m asking myself today and I’m praying daily God will bring that person/people into my life.

We are better together. We are not equipped to do this life alone. 

Do you have people in your life who are helping you do God’s work?

Spend time today reflecting on this question, I know I will be.

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Are You a Genuine Friend?


“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” (Proverbs 27:17)

I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting about the friendships in my life. I’ve strengthened some and let some go. The circle I keep has gotten smaller and fewer as I’ve gotten older. I make acquaintances easily, but maintaining and strengthening existing friendships in this season of life is a little difficult for me. I have friends I can go see a movie with but having people in my life who will walk side by side with me through the messiness of life is a little more challenging.

There are people I talk to and who speak life into me but over the past year I’ve built walls around my heart and I’m very guarded in specific areas. I’m not as vulnerable as I used to be. I think when you’ve been hurt a lot you train yourself not to get too close to other people in fear of being hurt or worse rejected.  Genuine friendships matter to me, especially in this area but they’re rare.

Genuine friends spend time with you.

Genuine friends are there to catch us when we fall.

Genuine friends are the ones there for us when the whole world walks out. 

Genuine friends accept and love us as we are. 

Genuine friends pray for you and with you.

Genuine friends are transparent with you. 

Genuine friends are the ones who stick closer than a brother.

Genuine friends inspire, encourage, and challenge you to be the best version of yourself.

I’m sure there are other characteristics of genuine friendships, but these stick out most to me. As I think through my friendships, I know what kind of friendships I want and the kind of friend I need to be.  Our friendships and relationships with others matter, especially as followers of Jesus.  They should draw us closer to Christ and His image not away from it.

This week take an inventory of your relationships and pray over them. 

Are you a genuine friend?

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Trust Those Who Are Trustworthy


“Beware of your friends;
    do not trust anyone in your clan.
For every one of them is a deceiver,
    and every friend a slanderer” – Jeremiah 9:4

Do you have a hard time trusting people?  I do and often.

Now that I’m older, the circle I keep is smaller. I’ve learned through a lot of hurtful experiences, not everyone can be trusted.  I only have 2-3 people I can pretty much tell anything to and know they’ll be there for me.

Strength and help come from real friendships. Friends who are in our lives because they genuinely want to be and unconditionally love us as we are. This kind of friendship is rare. Not everyone in our life is there for the right reasons and it’s up to us to discern who gets to stay and who needs to go.

This morning’s verse is a warning. There are a few areas I need to make adjustments. I think I’m more careful of who I try and bond with on a deeper level and those I choose to keep at surface level. I don’t enjoy or want shallow friendships in my life, but not everyone in our life needs full access to our vulnerabilities.

We should trust people who prove to be trustworthy. 

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Leaves, Branches, and Roots


Something I heard today made me think, it really resonated. I don’t think I ran across it by coincidence but it made me think about my life and the people currently in it. People in our life are like parts of a tree; leaves, branches, and roots. I begin to reflect on my current friendships, the ones hanging in balance, and  ones I haven’t really spoken to in a long while. I thought about all the people in my life over the past two years. Ones who stayed, ones who left and their overall purpose in my life.

Some people are like leaves on a tree. When the wind blows, they’re over there… wind blow that way they over here… they’re unstable. When the seasons change they wither and die, they’re gone. That’s alright. Most people are like that, they’re not there to do anything but take from the tree and give shade every now and then. That’s all they can do. 

People who are like leaves on a tree, leave. They were only meant to be in our life temporarily and for a season. Leaves, like most friendships, are beautiful in the beginning, but often take more than they’re willing to give and only offer temporary relief and support. They were never meant to be permanent because once seasons change, they will “blow away”,  they leave.

When I think about my own life, I think about the people who were leaves and how many times over the past 10 years I was left. I try not to be resentful or have regret, but every friendship in my life ended because they were only meant to be temporary. They helped me grow as a person, provided support only they could give, and when they fulfilled their purpose, they left.

Some people are like a branch on that tree. You have to be careful with those branches too, cause they’ll fool you. They’ll make you think they’re a good friend and they’re real strong but the minute you step out there on them, they’ll break and leave you high and dry.

People who are like branches are the ones who tell you, “You can depend on me, I’ll always be there for you,” are the same ones when conflict arises or there is an issue, they will find any reason to back off or leave. Friendships that are like branches are easily broken because the person leaving decides the friendship isn’t worth any more effort.

Truth be told, I’ve been a branch and most people who have come in and out of my life were branches too. I can openly admit I have found reasons to leave when there was disagreement or an issue. Not because the person did anything wrong but for me it’s better to avoid conflict than confront it. I encourage honesty but not for the sake of trying to be right or force my opinion or belief on someone else. It’s not very loving, it’s not very Christ-like. I’ve also found reasons to leave because their purpose in my life was fulfilled. I wasn’t gaining anything by keeping them and I wasn’t losing anything by leaving. How can we keep others’ in our life who aren’t contributing to our overall spiritual, emotional, and mental health? Honestly, we shouldn’t because much like branches of a tree with no leaves, they’re only taking up space.

But if you find 2 or 3 people in your life that’s like the roots at the bottom of that tree you are blessed. Those are the kind of people that aren’t going nowhere. They aren’t worried about being seen, nobody has to know that they know you, they don’t have to know what they’re doing for you but if those roots weren’t there, that tree couldn’t live. 

People who are like roots of a tree are permanent. Friendships who go through everything, hell and back, and still stand strong are friends worth keeping. They’re friendships worth fighting for. 

Currently, I can only think of 2 people I’m a root too. Not because they’ve given me anything in return but but because I’ve realized their significance and I know my life would be forever changed if they were no longer in it.  What I thought about though is, who’s the root in my life? Sadly, I can’t think of one. Maybe the issue is less about others and more of issues I have with myself. I have trust issues. I’m insecure. I’m a mess on legs.  It’s this reality that has ended previous friendships and probably a slew of other things and I really don’t have an excuse or reason for it all. It’s who I am, it’s the way I’m programmed and I don’t see it changing. At least not anytime soon.

A tree could have a hundred million branches but it only takes a few roots down at the bottom to make sure that tree gets everything it needs. When you get some roots, hold on to them but the rest of it… just let it go. Let folks go.

The question that settles in my heart about this is, how can we be loving towards others, and yet find any reason at all to distance ourselves or leave? From an outside pair of lens, it’s not loving at all but from our inner well being this decision is best.  It’s not a gray area, it’s a matter of our hearts. I’ve found reasons to stay in others’ life who have done nothing in my life but take up space and/or found reasons to leave. Why? Because that’s what love does. I’ve found reasons to leave others when they weren’t contributing to my overall spiritual, emotional, and mental health. Why? Because it was best for everyone involved.

We should always honor others above ourselves but God never promised anything on this side of Heaven permanent. There are a few people who will be there regardless of season or circumstance. Those are ones who we should never take for granted. 

I’m not a good friend and some days I’m not a good person. I’ve been all three – a leaf, branch, and root. I’m all three now – a leaf, branch, and root. But, there’s one root in my life who humbles me daily to be a better friend and person and that root is Christ.

Are you a leaf, branch, or root?


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I’m a Crappy Friend


Take an honest and hard look at your inner circle.Think about how many of those people are ones doing life with you. Really doing it with you. People who everyday are getting their hands and feet dirty in your story, who are actively involved in every area of your life. They know the highs and lows and still love you and are there at your side. If you have this, consider yourself blessed.

If you’re me, then you probably feel incredibly alone. There I said it. Yes, I feel alone. And as a Christian, it shouldn’t be this way. 

When I think about my life in the past year, I’ve connected with some great people. ‘Great’ is really an understatement because they’ve impacted my life in such powerful ways, it’s hard to put in words. God has and still blesses me without fail in areas I lack. He sees a need and fills it. Every. single. time.

Except in one area — friendships.

I use the term friendship loosely because what I really mean is community. When I think about community, I think of family. People who are doing life with you, who are there through the thick of it all and never falter. And right now in my life, I don’t have it.

When I think about my inner circle, it’s very small and almost non existent. I’m connected to a lot of people, but none of them would sit and talk to me about Jesus for hours or even me for hours. Because truth is, we all have our own life and we’d hate to be inconvenienced. For the past two months I’ve felt like a pretty big inconvenience. This isn’t insecurity, it’s what was shown to me. Though what was said was different and at the time believable.

“I’ll never leave you.”

“You can text or call me any time.”

“I’ll always be here for you.”

If someone has ever said these words to you, then you know it’s like manna for one’s soul. Until ‘life’ happens or when one has been wronged, then someone bails. Too many people have bailed on me. I wasn’t worth the burden to carry because I was a burden.

Until I had a heart check. Oh, thank you Lord.

If I want others to invest in me, I have to invest  in them.

If I want stable and thriving friendships in my life, I need to be stable and able to thrive in my own life.

If I want others to be committed to me, I need to commit to them.

If I want real friends, I need to be one.

The hard truth? I do none of these things and if I do, it’s fleeting. 

And why? Because I’ve been hurt too many times

The gut wrenching kicker? Doing it without expecting anything in return.

Yes, I will be walked over and probably abandoned again, but I can’t worry whether or not I’m worth the investment. I need to focus on investing in others rather than trying desperately to get something out of them.

We’re fickle. We’re flawed. We need grace and love and I haven’t extended enough of either in others.  

I’m a crappy friend. 

Please forgive me.

Ecclesiastes 4:10

  If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.

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How to Keep Opposite Sex Friendships

As I look at my life and inner circle, I notice something. Most of my closest friendships have been with men. I realize I’ve been able to keep these friendships because all friendships are worth the effort as long as both parties are willing to invest in it. Some friendships ended. Some remain. And some hang in balance. There is no secret formula for successful friendships because every relationship takes work.

Opposite sex friendships are possible as long as both parties agree in the beginning they will in fact remain friends. Unfortunately, with most of my male friendships we never established this. And so began a downward spiral of broken hearts and pity parties.

I won’t lie, navigating the gray area of these friendships has been difficult. And even now I’m still healing from a broken heart of a friendship which ended almost a year ago. It taught me three important lessons about opposite sex friendships and how to keep them WITHOUT getting hurt. Yes, it’s possible.

Define the relationship in the beginning.

Yes, have ‘the talk‘. Because let’s be honest, we know right away whether or not we’re interested. Maybe not in the first few seconds but if we’re around someone long enough, we know if they are someone we could develop a relationship with. Some of us don’t have this talk out of how awkward it is and wanting to take ‘things slow’. Here’s a little advice and something I learned the hard and brutal way: If ‘slower’ turns into two years of stringing along and no commitment, needless to say, it’s not going to develop into anything more. And nothing we do or say will change their mind.  I’ve been through this and it sucked. It hurt. It was disappointing. Not to mention embarrassing. Have the talk early on, it will save you the disappointment, heart break, and embarrassment down the road. Trust me.

Accept being ‘friend-zoned’.

Yes, that awful thing we hate but find ourselves in without warning. I can count on hands and toes how many times I’ve been friend zoned. So much in fact I’m pretty sure at this point I’ve created my own layer to it. No one likes to be friend zoned. It sucks. For opposite sex friendships to work, both of you have to accept being friend zoned. If you define the relationship in the beginning, being friend zoned won’t bother you. You’ll accept the friendship for what it is than trying get the other person to fall in love and want you. Applying this has helped me appreciate and value my friendships for what they are than what they could ‘maybe be’ one day. In my case, never. 

Have mutual respect and unconditionally love each other.

Even when he or she gets engaged and marries. Even when he or she jumps from relationship to relationship and you give hours and hours of advice. EVEN when they ignore your advice and do what they want anyway. Respect them and love them. Part of keeping and securing  friendships with the opposite sex is realizing we can’t change or fix people. We may love and want them. We may really love them more than we admit, but if we define the relationship in the beginning, accept being friend zoned and if the friendship is worth keeping – all that is left is unconditional love and respect.

As of late, I’ve come to some pretty harsh realizations about my friendships. And I realize most, if not all my friendships failed because my expectations were higher than my ability to love and respect the other person. It’s easy in our head to say and even confirm we really love and accept someone, but when they fail to meet our expectations, we bail. Worse, we stay but hang on to hope they will come around and be the person we want them to be. They won’t. 

Therein lies grace.

These are lessons I’ve been applying in my life for the last two months. The transition from expectation to acceptance has been challenging but I value everyone God places in my life. What I want to make clear is I’m not saying this applies to all opposite sex friendships. Because I know a couple who is currently married who did all of this and ended up marrying. It can happen. The important thing to take away from this is to communicate. Talk. Get to know each other. Grow together. Accept each other for who you are separately and enjoy each other’s company without expecting anything.

Appreciate the friendship for what it is and leave the rest in God’s hands.

Proverbs 18:24

24 There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.

 Have you been able to keep your opposite sex friendships?

What worked? What hasn’t?

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