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Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age by Ben Stuart [Book Review]

Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age by Ben Stuart is  one of the most important books I’ve read this year (apart from the Bible, of course). This book gave me a lot to chew on. It definitely made me rethink how I approach my dating life and how I’ll navigate engagement and marriage.

Single: Devotion

During singleness, this is the time we really get to figure out who we are, what we want, and focus on using our God given gifts to glorify Him. It’s in the seasons of singleness where we really deepen our relationship with God. Where we are so dependent on Him we don’t depend on our significant others to fill in the blanks or voids for us.

Sometimes the most loving gift God can give us is singleness.

Dating: Evaluation

The next phase is dating. This is the part where we need to pay attention. Dating exists for evaluation. Dating isn’t mean to find someone out there to complete us, but we should pay attention to the person’s character. Stuart says we need both character and chemistry in order for a relationship to work.

You want solid, Godly character and fun, easy, chemistry.

Engaged: Union

Engagement is about union. It’s about bringing two people together in every respect (except sex … not yet!) Stuart says, engagement focuses primarily on the union of three key areas of our lives: Family, Finances, and Future. All three must be out in the open for the relationship to move to the next stage; marriage.

Ask questions so you can minimize friction in the first years of marriage.

Married: Mission

God designed marriage to be a picture of Jesus and a pursuit of Him. The strongest bonds are formed when two people live out their marriage on a mission together.

God designs a husband and wife to complement each other.

This book put so many things in perspective for me in how I’ll navigate engagement and marriage. Marriage is a big deal. If two people have common vision, their marriage will work. There are so many other details that need to be worked out before we get there though and this is why I appreciate Stuart’s wisdom.

I highly recommend this book if you’re single or dating.

I received this book free from the publisher through the BookLook Bloggers book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. 

Talk Yourself Happy Transform Your Heart by Speaking God’s Promises by Kristi Watts [Book Review]

Talk Yourself Happy Transform Your Heart by Speaking God’s Promises was a timely read.  I think one of our biggest misconceptions is if we think happy, we will be happy.  In my own life, this isn’t always the case. One thing I loved about Kristi’s perspective is speaking God’s promises and Word over our life and circumstances. This has the power to change our perspective significantly.

Our thoughts and words have power, especially the ones directed at ourselves. I’m getting better in this area with God’s help. We have a powerful weapon available to us daily and that is God’s Word. Kristi reminds us speaking God’s promises out loud breaks the enemy’s hold over us. Using the Word of God and speaking His promises allows for spiritual breakthrough.

Speaking God’s promises over our life is not just a pep talk, but a way of life. 

I’m learning this a lot lately. Every time I get into a funk, I repeat scripture back to myself. Thankfully, I have friends in my life who remind me daily of God’s truth.  We need to believe daily the power of the Holy Spirit to transform our hearts and break through the lies of the enemy. This is the key to happiness. 

If you struggle in this area, Talk Yourself Happy is the book for you.

I received this book free from the publisher through the BookLook Bloggers book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review.  I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.

Loveology: God. Love. Marriage. Sex. And the Never-Ending Story of Male and Female

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Loveology  by John Mark Comer is one of the best books I’ve read so far this year. It couldn’t have come at a better time in my life when I have so many questions about love, marriage, and sex. Loveology connected some missing dots in my own struggle with being a single, a virgin, and unmarried. It wasn’t the tone of the book but it was the message throughout and a lot of it was spot on.

John Mark Comer begin the book in the garden of Eden. He followed the story of Adam and Eve, the fall, and why many of us struggle the way we do in marriage, relationships, our identity, and God’s overall design for men, women, and His creation. There was so many nuggets of wisdom throughout the entire book and it was hard not to write everything down.

While Loveology can’t speak for us as a whole it can fill some missing pieces in our logic towards love, marriage, sex, and a better reality in a culture laden with sin, expectations, and an urgency to be in love, be married, and have sex. Comer mentions the importance of singleness and waiting and God’s purpose for marriage. He explains the purpose of marriage isn’t marriage, it’s to fulfill God’s calling in our life which can only be fulfilled when men and women are partnered together to bring God’s Kingdom to earth.

The purpose of marriage is for God’s glory, not ours.

Loveology provided confirmation to me as I reached the end of the book, especially when Comer said, “We don’t marry projects. We marry partners.” Basically, we can’t change people, we have to love others where they are for who they are. And I don’t know about you, but I struggle a lot with this. I’ve always been a fixer, but it’s not my job, it’s God’s. Our role in others’ lives is to walk with them towards the cross, not try to change them.

Loveology will challenge you, it may even change you, but it won’t speak for you, it can only speak to you. God knows our hearts better than any one and while Loveology helped process things in my life with better clarity, it may not for you.

Whether single, married, divorced, or searching, approach Loveology with an open mind and heart.

Love, marriage, sex, even singleness — this whole thing was created by God. It’s good, and it’s for you to enjoy. But know this. Nothing in this world can fill this gaping void in your heart by our departure from Eden. Not the best marriage, the best sex, the best romance-nothing. All that stuff is incredible but it’s not God. The letdowns will come. And when they do, remind yourself that this life, in its best moments, is nothing more than a signpost pointing forward to the age to come. The day when “there will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain.” When “sorrow and sighing will flee away.” And when we will be with God, just like we were supposed to be in the beginning. (Comer, 241)

I received this book free from Zondervan through the BookLook Bloggers book review bloggers program.  I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”