This week was a bit better than last. I got rid of a lot of crap and walked into a new work week with a different mindset. It’s still a work in progress though. There’s a lot going on but I’m working through it, one day at a time. With that aside, this week has been chalk full of valuable lessons and sometimes those lessons come through in unlikely places.

Less is more

Earlier this week I went through 20+ years of stuff and either tossed it or threw it in a bag to donate. You don’t realize how much stuff you’ve accumulated over the years until it’s in 6+ bags on your bedroom floor. This process of going through stuff and deciding what needed to be kept, donated, or thrown out was both cathartic and nostalgic. There’s something comforting about starting over, but starting over with less stuff. Most of the stuff I’ve collected over the years were things I never needed to begin with.

All the stuff I’ve collected over the years was taking up unnecessary space. Much like the baggage we carry that takes up unnecessary space in our hearts. If we’re not careful, it will pile up. There are still some things I need to sort through and decide whether to toss it, donate it, or keep it. I’m going to use better judgement with future purchases and other aspects of my life moving forward.

Egg shell relationships

I’ve noticed the stronger my boundaries, the greater the conflict. I’m not really sure where the discord happened, but it’s there and it’s palpable. My pastor recently posted a series of posts that said exactly what I’ve been thinking for the past month. I love him because he shoots the truth to you straight. He doesn’t beat around the bush or walk on egg shells. I’m this way and I’m learning this part of myself isn’t accepted, let alone respected.

I think it’s important to figure out the health of our relationships daily. Where are these people at in their life? It’s important to ask the hard stuff but also not put up with their crap. If the relationships in our life can’t handle the hard stuff, hard truths, hard conversations, then give them a season of space to figure stuff out and get those areas right again. I’m learning to just give people space to be with themselves.

Egg shell relationships are okay in the beginning but as we grow and change, we need thicker skin. Thicker skin to handle the hard parts about allowing someone else into our space. Being transparent and vulnerable about our weaknesses as we continue to keep each other in our life.  We need to know unnecessary drama or conflict won’t divide us.

It takes thick skin to have a soft heart.

Do you have someone in your life you always have to walk on egg shells with? 

Song of the Week: “Next to Me” by Imagine Dragons

I’ve been a fan of Imagine Dragons for a couple of years. They’re hit or miss with me. But I was listening to their newest album recently and came across this song and it’s stuck with me. Mostly because it says exactly what I’ve been feeling for over a year now. I think we all want that someone who can love us despite the messiest parts of ourselves. Someone who can see past all the crap and see the pretty view despite a shattered past. They really see us and still want and love us. 

For those in my life who still love me despite the ugly parts of me, thank you for taking a chance on me.

 

Oh, I always let you down
You’re shattered on the ground
But still I find you there
Next to me
And oh, stupid things I do
I’m far from good, it’s true
But still I find you
Next to me (next to me)
There’s something about the way that you always see the pretty view
Overlook the blooded mess, always lookin’ effortless
And still you, still you want me
I got no innocence, faith ain’t no privilege
I am a deck of cards, vice or a game of hearts
And still you, still you want me
Until next week.
In Jesus and with love,
Julie