Earlier this week I deleted Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram apps from my phone. Not going to lie, I’m actually at peace without them. Social media has been a thorn in my side for a while and recently it’s been bothering me being connected all the time. I still login throughout the day, but in the evening, I put my phone away. Out of sight, out of mind.

Why now?

There are a few reasons, mostly personal. The short version, I need a healthier distraction. I think social media is okay in moderation but should never be used as our only source for connection. I’m grateful for the people I’m connected to. Our friendships were birthed through social media and I know we’ll remain long-term friends.

Connection isn’t the problem though, it’s compulsion.

One thing I’m learning is to be better with my time and use my time in ways that matter. Resisting the urge to login to Facebook, scroll through Twitter and Instagram and actually pay attention to the things that are going on inside me is becoming more important.  Healthy habits is a goal of mine this year. This started with making minor adjustments in my daily life and they’ve slowly become habits. Particularly for me it’s in a few key areas, but social media was definitely at the top.

One of the healthiest things we can do is pay attention to how our minds respond to things we see on social media.

To be completely honest, I want to live a more quiet life. I said this in my last post and it’s still true two months later. Not every area of our life needs an audience. There are many things going on in my life right now that have no business or place on social media. We have a right to privacy, and sometimes social media violates this.

2018 is becoming a year of process for me. Things being stripped from me one at a time. It’s also a year of reflection and deep repentance. There have been key moments this year already that have reshaped my thinking. I’m laughing and in awe right now at how God uses the people He does to do this. The amount of closed door conversations I’ve had with people this year helping them deal with their personal pain is in turn helping me deal with mine.

It’s a process.

The people in our life deserve our full time and attention. I learned this over a year ago, but definitely, more so this year. Everyone I sit down to eat with or talk to, I never check my phone and they don’t either. We value the connection and presence of each other, not our screens. What would the relationships in your life look like if you learned to do the same? They would probably be healthier, stronger, and would thrive.

I often wonder about people who are always connected at all hours of the day. What in their life do they need a distraction from? Social media is a distraction and can be an unhealthy one. This isn’t about other people though, it’s about me.

Now that social media is off my phone, I feel better without it. The temptation to check my e-mail or social media in the middle of the night or early in the morning is gone. When we focus on things that really matter, things that used to matter don’t.

My challenge for you this year is to put your phone down. Pay attention to what’s going on inside you and around you. Those things deserve our time and attention, not social media and their audiences.

In Jesus and with love,