I’ve always believed whatever is inside you will spill out. If we’re okay emotionally and spiritually, then we’re healthy Christians. I believe we can appear to be okay outwardly but inwardly tells a different story. That’s why I’m thankful for Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Scazzero.

Majority of this book I agree with and it’s definitely a book I’ll revisit from time to time to do an internal check.

It’s impossible to be spiritually mature, while remaining emotionally immature.

Think about this statement for a minute. One can be spiritually mature (ie: Go to church weekly, read Scripture daily, pray often, etc) and still struggle inside. This is what Scazzero discusses in his book.

What defines someone who is emotionally healthy?

  • Naming, recognizing, and managing our own feelings
  • Identifying with and having active compassion for others
  • Initiating and maintaining close and meaningful relationships
  • Breaking free from self-destructive patterns
  • Being aware of how our past impacts our present
  • Developing the capacity to express our thoughts and feelings clearly
  • Respecting and loving others without having to change them
  • Asking for what we need, want, or prefer clearly, directly, and respectfully
  • Accurately self-assessing our strengths, limits, and weaknesses and freely sharing them with others
  • Learning the capacity to resolve conflict maturely and negotiate solutions that consider the perspectives of others
  • Integrating our spirituality with our sexuality in a healthy way
  • Grieving well

This year alone I’ve had to deal with all the above in different situations. Especially how easily our past can spill into areas it shouldn’t and how conflict when not dealt with quickly and maturely can be destructive spiritually. Other key points stood out to me including: practicing silence, solitude, unceasing prayer, learning to rest attentively in God’s presence, loving others out of a life of a love for God, and living in community that passionately loves Jesus above all else.

I had to think over these things carefully and do an assessment of how I’m doing in these areas. These areas are the missing ingredients in a life totally surrendered to the Holy Spirit. When a life is totally surrendered to the Spirit’s leading, every area of a person’s heart will be an honest reflection of who they are in Christ.  In other words, authentic.

Emotional health is important to our spiritual lives.

This book is highly recommended if you struggle in any of the above areas.

How are you doing emotionally?

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