The more I think about my life at almost 33, I’m reminded daily how important friendships are.  I’m also reminded how difficult they are.  I don’t know what it is about adult friendships, but it seems the older I get, it becomes harder to maintain them. My inner circle has gotten smaller over the past few years, but there are some consistent characteristics about these people and why we’re able to make our friendships work.

They’re reliable. When I text or call, they text and call back. They always respond.

They always follow through with commitments. If they say they’ll be there, they’re there. No questions asked. No excuses.

They value our time together. They’re never late or ever in a hurry. Oh, and as a bonus, they almost never use or check their phone while we’re together.

I’m in a place in life where I want to be around people who genuinely like being around me. Honestly, I’m not always the best person to be around. I’ve struggled more lately than I have in a while. Sometimes we say and do things we don’t necessarily mean and stuff happens that could have been prevented had we been more self-controlled. I know this now but I also know despite my failings, God has still proven Himself faithful.

God doesn’t stop working because I’m a bad friend.

This is an area I’m trying to constantly improve as I move forward with my life. I’ve had some amazing things happen in a few short months and I’ve had some difficult things happen too. But when it’s all said and done and the chips have fallen, I want to know the right people are in my life. People who will challenge me, strengthen me, encourage me, and be there no matter what. On the same hand, I want to be this kind of friend too.  I believe what we are willing to sow into our friendships/relationships and in life, we reap those things. If we sow good things, we’ll reap good things.

Successful friendships don’t happen over night. They’re cultivated over time with a lot of patience, and the will power to keep going, to make things work, even when the directions of our life change.

Ask God for the grace and humility to be a better friend and for Him to bring those kind of friends into your life.

Do you have successful friendships? If not, what in your life needs to change?