I’m connected with different people from all walks of life. Thanks to social media and the internet, it’s easy to connect with any one from any part of the world. I love connecting with people, learning their story and following their journey. But, if I’m being honest, I’ve been living vicariously through them. Worst, I’ve been comparing myself to them. There’s a fine line between people who inspire us or connecting with others and start envying parts of their life.
I’m guilty of the latter.
It’s hard as an almost 30 year old to be single in a world where everyone’s life is displayed everywhere. Photos of engagement ring, check. Photos of wedding, check. Statuses about your honeymoon, check. Photos and statuses of how much they love their spouse/significant other, check. Yeah, it gets a little intimidating quick.
Insecurity and inadequacy settle in and make themselves comfortable in places we wish didn’t exist.
All throughout my childhood I never felt good enough and even now as an adult I’m reminded of how little I’ve done with my life past a college degree. This was my only huge accomplishment. Since then I’ve just gone with the flow of life and let God direct every step of it.
There are a lot of talented people my age or around it and I often wonder how they got so lucky. Why did God bless them so abundantly and I’m still trying to find my footing in the world? While I realize this is wrong thinking, certain things trigger it and it’s usually the lie of comparison and wrong perspective.
God doesn’t look at any of us and say, “Man, I wish I had made you more like so and so.” or “Why can’t you be more like them?” No, He looks at us and says, “I made you and love you the way you are. I knew what I was doing when I created you.” Truth is, it’s hard to see ourselves from God’s perspective because the world tells us constantly how we’ll never measure up to everyone else.
Then His truth hit me.
2 Corinthians 10:12
12 Oh, don’t worry; we wouldn’t dare say that we are as wonderful as these other men who tell you how important they are! But they are only comparing themselves with each other, using themselves as the standard of measurement. How ignorant!
There are areas of my life where I feel inadequate and insecure, but I’m in control of how I handle it. I’m in control of what I allow to feed into my heart about my life. I shouldn’t measure any part of my life to others and their success. Yeah, there are a lot of successful people my age and younger but they aren’t me. And as many times I say “I’m tired of comparing myself to others”, it still happens because social media and the internet have made it nearly impossible to ignore it. But it also makes me ignorant to what God is doing in my own life.
God has been turning tables in my heart the past month. He’s not only listens but provides. The more time I spend with Him, He speaks into my life and reminds me I’m not in this world to live in the shadow of anyone else or compare myself to them. I’ve been set apart for something bigger than my own understanding; we all are.
We’re unique and our uniqueness sets us apart from everyone else. The more we bury this truth in our hearts and life, the more joy and peace we’ll find in life. I may not always be happy with where I am in my life, but I find joy in knowing God made me the way I am. I’m different and shouldn’t measure my life or happiness based on everyone else’s success. My focus and perspective should always be eternal.
It’s easy to focus our attention on what everyone else is doing and accomplishing than seeing the work of God’s hand in our own life. If we really spent more time looking through His eyes and understanding, we’d see more blessings than lack. The lie of comparison is a burden we were never meant to carry. It makes us ignorant to God’s calling and purpose for our life.
If there is any area in our life where we feel a lack, we need to change our perspective. The lie of comparison is a lie and shouldn’t skew our view about God and how He loves and sees us. Every season of our life has a purpose and as long as we stay focused on Him and continually seek Him, we’ll learn to accept ourselves and our life through a lens trust and faith, not lack.
Do you ever compare yourself to others?
Where in your life are you experiencing a lack?
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